As an adult, it’s easy to slip into a few bad habits – especially as we get older. Routinely eliminating “me” time is one of them, as is not making regular trips to the dentist or putting your health on the back-burner. But there’s one thing that we all do that puts quite a strain on our lives: compare ourselves to others.
You’ve been there. Your friend’s husband gets a big promotion, and their entire life is “upgraded” as a result. Maybe your sister moves into a bigger home in a nicer neighborhood. Or your neighbor joins a gym and loses 20 pounds. All of these are great things for the people in your life. So why do you feel so…discouraged? That one’s easy.
When you compare yourself to others, you are creating an environment rife for resentment and sadness. You are no longer grateful for what’s happening in your life and can only focus on where you are lacking. Eventually, those feelings graduate from the material shortcomings you start out with; eventually, you start to belittle who you are as a person.
Comparison is the thief of joy ~ Theodore Roosevelt
We all know this to be true, yet we still use other people’s successes (and failures) to measure our own self worth. Why do we do that? Why do we continue to berate ourselves by comparing our failures to others successes?
And, most importantly, how do we stop ourselves from sinking into a deep hole of harsh comparisons?
I know it’s difficult, but one of the best things you can do for yourself is to invest in you. Focus your energies on improving who you were yesterday and striving to be the person you want to be tomorrow. Eliminating comparison will usher in a wealth of joy, peace and love into your life.
Whenever you find yourself slipping back into compare mode, remind yourself that you, too, have a great successes in your life. Comparing yourself only diminishes the things you’ve accomplished. Be proud of what you’ve done, but also be grateful for what you have. And if you must compare, remember that only two measuring sticks matter: the one you use to measure who you were yesterday, and the one you’ll use for who you want to be tomorrow.
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