What are your dreams? No. Not the ones that are socially acceptable. Not the ones that you think others will understand. And definitely not the ones bestowed upon you by your parents, your best friend, your boss, your professors, etc.
What are your dreams?
The big ones. The scary ones. The ones that you feel like you have no chance of achieving. The ones that got laughed at over Thanksgiving dinner with your family. The ones that your girlfriends gloss over when you bring up the topic.
Let’s talk about them. No, not your dreams; those are there because they were destined to be. Because you are more than capable of making them reality. They’ll be there until you decide to grab them, run with them and show the world who they are.
What I want to talk about today is the feeling you have surrounding them. The fear. The uncertainty. The insecurity. The sadness. The shame. The judgment.
When was the last time you thought about your big dream and immediately tossed it aside because you were ashamed of even thinking about it? And it makes sense; you have to think about your kids’ college funds and your husband’s career path and your parents’ healthcare costs. You have so many other more important things going on in your life than your dreams. Because at the end of the day, everyone else’s feelings and needs matters more than yours.
I don’t need to tell you how ridiculous that is. Yet it’s basically what we tell ourselves every time we allow those negative feelings in relation to our dreams fester. And then we make excuses as to why it can’t work. So we end up both frustrated about our place in our lives and resentful of the people and things we put on a higher pedestal than us.
This is a vicious cycle, but I have good news. You can stop participating in this at any moment. You deserve a passionate and purposeful life. So let’s start choosing it.
Honor the divine within you. When you can feel deep inside that you’re onto something big, something that aligns perfectly with your soul’s purpose, you might get scared. And that’s OK. Being afraid when we have an idea is generally a good indicator of the direction we should be going. It may be outside of your comfort zone, but that doesn’t mean it’s a bad idea. It means that it’s an idea that deserves all the attention you can give it.
And finally, don’t ignore the deep and profound connection you have to your life’s purpose. Never stray too far away from that part of yourself. It’s the most meaningful part of who you are, so spend time each day nurturing connection through self care. Love yourself first, and the people in your life will benefit tenfold.