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Choosing Happiness When Pain Surfaces

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Spend some time researching happiness stats in this country, and you’ll get results ranging from how much money you need to make to truly be happy and the dismal percentage of Americans that actually are. Happiness is important, yet it’s one of the more overlooked indicators of a full life.

Often, we get caught up in the accumulation of stuff – job titles, fabulous vacations, handbags, etc. – in the pursuit of happiness. Unfortunately, those things are just that – things. True happiness comes from within and the material things we collect have a negligible effect at best.

So what is it you are trying to bury? What’s going on in your life currently that is making you unhappy?

I think a big part of the reason why so many of us are unhappy is because we hold onto bad experiences from the past and attach them to current situations far too often. You will never heal from past hurts if you keep opening the wounds during current ones. Your narrative may be powerful, but keeping a Rolodex of your past pains is truly only hurting you. Read More

Rediscover An Abundant Life

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There’s something very comforting about routine. Having your favorite coffee shop to go to in the morning. Taking your preferred route to the office. Watching you favorite television shows every week. A routine makes life’s difficulties easier to manage. It provides an escape from tough choices – even if only for a moment. And it grounds us when things can sometimes overwhelm us.

But routines can also be a double-edged sword. How often have you used your comfortable routine to get out of making one of those tough choices? Did you end up putting it off to the last minute and making the wrong one? Or worse – did you choose to not do it at all? And when was the last time you used your routine as an escape from a reality that no longer serves you? Or when you have been overwhelmed, how often did you use your routine to not just ease the pain but numb it?

Routines may be excellent ways to make the hours go by, but they can also be death to creativity. Read More

The Power Of the Present Moment

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When was the last time you took a moment to show gratitude? I know, I know: you are super busy. You’ve got a demanding career, even more demanding children and let’s not even get started on the mundane daily responsibilities that take up way too much time.

I get it. With a husband, four children and two businesses I’m at the helm of, I understand that sometimes everything else in life is more important than how you feel each moment. But to avoid burnout – and remain sane – you have to learn what you need and give that to yourself.

What does that look like? In short, it’s focusing on something that brings you joy and happiness at this moment. It could be something small, something big, or something that – on the surface – seems impossible. But your days are a series of choices, so why not make a choice for happiness whenever you can squeeze it in?

Before we go any further, it’s worth noting that your stressful responsibilities won’t go away. As much as I’d love to tell you that you don’t have to do the things you don’t want to, we all know that sometimes that’s just not the case. Confrontations happen. Disagreements occasionally turn into arguments. And disappointment is a part of life. You still have to deal with the hard stuff. But luckily for all of us, we can choose to counter these low moments with peaceful ones. Read More

Happiness Starts From Within

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Happily ever after. It’s usually attached to a fairy tale. A prince charming. And an ending wrapped in a bow. But real life isn’t always that simple, and reality can make even the best situation seem unbearable at times.

So, we eat. Or drink. Or spend money on things that we’ll never wear, never see again and frankly just don’t want. Because swiping the credit card for that new dress is easier than dealing with the real, underlying issue: our unhappiness.

When we aren’t happy, we tend to look around us at the external things in our lives to find happiness. But we must remember that happiness isn’t defined by stuff. The material things you own have nothing to do with what’s truly going on inside. Read More