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“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” ~ Neale Donald Walsch
We’ve all got that something about us that makes us different from everyone else. And as much as we yearn to stand out in a crowd, we often find ourselves conforming to what the pack is doing anyway. Dressing the same. Driving the same car. Living in the same environment.
As hard as we try to be different, we often end up as cardboard cutouts of the people around us.
This goes beyond just where you shop for clothes and which farmer’s market is your favorite. This is about the way you live your life. So many of the choices that we as humans make are based on what’s proven.
Go to college. Get an internship. Get a cushy corporate job. Be a teacher or a nurse – those are stable fields. Work until you’re 65, and then your real life begins where you travel, enjoy your grandkids and live happily ever after.
And if this if is okay with you – you have peace and happiness and harmony – then keep doing what you’re doing. But if you’re reading this blog? Something’s…off in your life.
Chances are, you’ve voiced your true opinions on this and experienced backlash. Maybe your ideas about what your life should look like has made you feel isolated from the group of people you’ve become accustomed to being around. But you know what? Stepping outside the lines may be terrifying, but it is the only way to experience true evolution.
Farrah Gray said that comfort is the enemy of achievement. I’ll take this a step further and say that it is also the enemy of growth.
You can’t truly evolve into your ideal, authentic self without loosening some social ties and shedding a few tears. Detoxing has a way of pushing us to our limits, but you know that those symptoms are the sign of you going in the right direction.
I like to believe that fear is an indicator of something you should be doing. Scared of public speaking? Email some professors at your local colleges and ask to speak to college students on a topic you’re an expert at (and trust me, you are an expert at something!). Want to start working out but terrified of being judged in the gym? Sign up, put your workout clothes on and go. I bet you’ll find that people are exceedingly more helpful than they are hurtful. Whatever it is that scares you will also free you once you face that fear. And you know what else? It’s probably also something that you may have a talent for.
People are ready to embrace and enjoy your gifts and talents; are you ready to share them? Don’t be afraid to spread your wisdom with the world. Once you’re figured out what you desire, find a way to express that to as many people as possible. Write a blog. Join a group. Start a MeetUp. Stop thinking and start doing. You’ll amaze yourself when you stop being shy and let your freak flag fly! You’ll create so much positive in your own life that others will reap boundless benefits from you simply being you.
As women, we oftentimes feel the need to be the caretaker. No matter how old our children get, we always want to save them from the struggles they’re facing. And that could also go for our siblings, friends or even our parents. The car breaks down? We’ll fix it. Bad day on the job? Cancel that massage and give a listening ear. Behind on your mortgage? Grab the checkbook.
One loan leads to another. The cancelled personal plans add up. Then rearranging your schedule becomes commonplace. Next thing you know, you are literally carrying people. You want your loved ones to thrive, so you do what you can to put them in the best position to succeed in their lives. But one day, you look up and realize that giving so much of yourself to them has been detrimental to you.
Has it ever occurred to you that maybe all that energy you’ve put into saving others has depleted the energy you have for yourself?
Instead of writing that check or canceling those plans, it’s time to hold up the mirror. Not even just to yourself, but to those who you are carrying. Neglecting your dreams and desires doesn’t serve your best interest or theirs.
You know what you want in life. You’ve tuned into yourself and defined your ideal life. Though I think balance is more myth than truth, I do believe that we can have harmony in all areas of our lives. And that includes the time you spend giving of yourself to others. Just don’t give so much that you have nothing left in your tank for yourself.
Stop abandoning yourself. Reconnect with your dreams and desires. Take time to get rid of unnecessary distractions and begin to boil down to what you really want for your life. If that means saying no to that “loan” your brother needs for his mortgage, than you must do that. You aren’t a well of never ending time, energy or money. And guess what? That’s not a flaw! None of us can be everything to everyone else and still have peace within ourselves.
So you know what? Stop carrying people. Hold the mirror up to those that hold you back from your life’s purpose. This may be a painful process, but few of life’s greatest blessings were made to come easy. Once you’ve recharged, let go of the all the weight you’re carrying and rediscover the time and energy you need to be your best you, you’ll find that you will be better for everyone around you. Especially yourself.
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