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June 2013

Change Your Thoughts to Change Your Wealth

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When your financial reality is one that other people envy, it’s hard to find fault in your actions. You’ve worked hard to create financial security for yourself and your family. And you’ve come to place where you’re ready to focus on your true passions. The problem is that you’re not sure where to start. Your entire life has been centered around accumulating wealth that your decision-making process is a bit skewed. That’s why this week, I want to talk about changing the way you think.

So what is at the center of your life? For many of us – rich, poor and everyone in between – it’s money. Our financial lives are the driving forces behind the vast majority of our decisions. For many of us, our self worth is tied up into our money. We feel both exhilarated and important when we fill our closets and homes with brand new luxuries. But then we simultaneously feel guilt about the amount we spent and our lack of self control.

It’s time to start building wealth from the inside out. As I’ve said a few times before, your self worth should not be connected to your net worth – even if it is more than most. If your goal is more financial freedom with your wealth, maybe you’ll want to focus on building enough assets to allow yourself to earn about half of your regular salary from investments to improve your quality of life. Or maybe your goal is building a different type of asset – becoming a business owner or closing up shop to fund a different dream.

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You have the means to create your ideal life, but you’re having trouble figuring out where to start. Work through those emotions. An important step on your journey to happiness and abundance is to define your ideal life from every aspect. How you define it is by recognizing your dreams as well as your emotions behind your money.

Though money is a big factor in decision making, I want you to take time considering what your ideal life looks like regardless of your financial situation. Don’t think about what you’re supposed to be doing but what you want to do. The world around us teaches us that power is achieved through financial gain; but you know that’s not necessarily the case. Devote some time figuring out what fuels you, feeds your soul and empowers your sense of self. Then, devote your money.

Identifying Emotions & Staying on Track

By | Accumulators, Advice from Julie Murphy Casserly, Blog | No Comments

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We have a lot of roles in our lives. Employee or employer. Teacher or student. Spouse. Daughter or son. Friend. Sibling. Parent.

Some of these roles are easier to navigate than others. Which ones are the most challenging for you? Maybe you’re having trouble balancing both work and school. Or problems in your family life are getting in the way of you maintaining friendships in your personal one. You could be devoting much of your emotional energy to your aging parents with responsibilities to your spouse, children and job being left behind.

So what does this all have to do with finances? These life stresses can bring out our worst spending habits, especially those that involve collecting things. The dark side of your relationship with money rears its head when you feel overwhelmed.

Remind yourself of the influencing forces behind your financial emotions. Is your personality type a hindrance to your personal growth or happiness? Do you find yourself blaming others for standing in the way of your financial success?

Now is the time to identify the emotions behind your money decisions. Shame, blame, judgement and guilt often materialize in your day-to-day life as splurges. Life is peaks and valleys; don’t allow the low times to ruin yourself financially. And even if you slip up every now and then, don’t allow your mistakes to crush your self esteem and worth. Remember, you are worth more than whatever that number in your bank account says. Those titles that sometimes become unbearably difficult are also the same ones that fill your life with joy, love and meaning. Why not view your money that way as well?

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What titles do you embrace and which ones do you begrudgingly accept? How often do you attach a negative emotion to a role you play? Look at the roles you play in your life as objectively as possible, and determine how those roles have affected your relationship with money. Embrace whatever feelings you have about your roles and the negative part they play in your finances, and forgive yourself.