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September 2011

Your financial upbringing (part 4): overcome your past to shine in your future

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This past month, we’ve spent our time reconnecting with our childhood experiences. While your children were dealing with trigonometry and sports tryouts, you went through your own “back to school” journey through examining your youth. What did you find out about yourself?

During the first week of September, we reflected on the different situations presented to us as children, and how we reacted to them both as youngsters and as adults. We thought about how we felt during the different stages of our youth, and we journaled about how we spent our money.

In week two, we began to rewire our subconscious by confronting our negative feelings instead of running away from them. We accepted that some of our childhood experiences Read More

Your financial upbringing (part 3): What are your dreams?

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The first two weeks of September, we devoted our time figuring out what experiences from your childhood shaped your current relationship with money. You’ve been confronting your fears so you can move past them and find success.

Well this week, I want you start thinking about the life of your dreams. But we need to do this in a few steps. The month of September is devoted to going back to our childhoods in order to fix our present. And now I want you to do the same thing with your dreams.

Take a moment and think about this: what did you dream about doing as a child? A teen? In college?

I want you to think about what your dreams were in the past for a reason. In life, Read More

Your financial upbringing (part 2): rewiring your subconscious

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Last week, we talked about how specific experiences in our childhood have shaped our relationship with money. This week, I want to focus on retraining your subconscious. You want to break away from those inherited beliefs so you can eliminate the roadblocks to your financial success.

I closed my last blog post with a reflection exercise where you wrote down the different experiences and situations you were in during your childhood. What were some of the things Read More

Your financial upbringing: how your childhood shaped your relationship with money

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The first week of September marks the unofficial end of summer and the beginning ofa new school year for millions of children around the country. As adults, we forget how difficult being a kid can be sometimes. Our problems – office politics, the mortgage, caring for aging loved ones – seem so much bigger than the things our children have to face in their lives.

What many of us don’t realize, though, is what happens in childhood affects us our entire lives. Our subconscious is completely formed by the time we are six years old. So the majority of our actions and reactions got their roots before we even hit the first grade.

Your childhood

No one has total control of their emotions 100 percent of the time. When we face conflict, we won’t always be able to handle the situation without going a little bit off the deep end. During those moments when restraint goes out ofthe window, we tap into our subconscious and our deepest feelings – the onesthat shape us – come to light.

For example, pretty much all of us are taught from a young age that setting personal boundaries is selfish. And as adults, even when something makes us uncomfortable, we sometimes feel like we have to go along with things because that’s what we are supposed to do.

When wasthe last time your coworkers went for post-work cocktails and pressured you into going, even though you knew it was over your budget? These types of scenarios have been happening to you your entire life. Like when you were peer-pressured into drinking after your junior prom, or when the other kids teased you at summer camp because your clothes were too different from everyone else’s.

We’ve essentially recreated familiar situations we faced in childhood and replicated them in our adulthood. The only difference between what happened to us in childhood and what’s happening now is that our finances are greatly affected by our decisions.

Reflect

So this week, while your kids are getting back to homework assignments and Friday night football games, spend some time reflecting on your own childhood experiences. What did you do with your allowance – spend it all or save it? Did your parents encourage you to use your money a certain way?

Think about the different situations you were in during your childhood and teenageyears. Journal about the things that come to mind. Next week, I’ll talk more about retraining your subconscious and breaking away from those inherited beliefs to eliminate roadblocks to financial success.

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